Being on a soccer team was probably the best and worst decision I ever made in my life! I was only playing because my mom made me sign up for a sport. I eventually quit, figuring my reason for continuing to play shouldn’t be because I wanted to make other girls cry when they lost.
I wasn’t exactly what you would call the “star player” of the team. I say that it was the worst decision of my life for the obvious reason. I was horrible! And being horrible at a sport kills you even more when your coach knows you’re horrible and sticks you on the field every time your friends or your crush comes to a game. There’s also the fact that you have to go to practice after school, everyday, in the rain, or in the beating hot sun for three long, miserable hours. I was forced to take part in a sport and I was devastated. I had a social life I needed to get back to! Wasting my days away making my muscles sore playing the one sport I thought I would like and ended up hating was not my idea of a “fun time.”
However, in spite of that horror story, it was also the best thing I had ever done in my life. I ended up dragging along two of my friends to practice with me because I was NOT going to do this alone, and we surprisingly ended up being friends with everyone on the team. Even though the three of us were embarrassingly bad at the sport, we fed off of their energy and became excited when we were going to go to a new match. When we won it felt like all of us had scored the winning goal by how supportive everyone was, with the sounds of high fives filling the air and the words “Good job girl!” becoming quite contagious. I learned that when girls love a sport this much, they fight for it. Not only for themselves but for their teammates. And they fight HARD. Maybe that’s what had the other soccer teams on edge.
The Hocking Girl’s Experience On the Soccer Team
In Scottsdale, Arizona, the Foothills Academy College Prep boys soccer team boarded the bus along with two special midfielders, sisters Alyssa and Colette Hocking. They had gladly joined for every practice and game, and was given the same treatment as any of the other guys. The school was too small to have a boys and girls soccer team, so the girls decided to try out for the boys team to show them just how serious they really were. Little did they know that making the team wasn’t going to be the only struggle they would face.
After riding for an hour to play against Our Lady Of Sorrow, the team said that they would just as soon forfeit the game then play with the girls. So, for the sake of the boys, the girls decided to sit on the sidelines and watch as their much more masculine teammates participated in the season opener. When the Mesa Faith Christian team told them the same thing, the boys had the girls back. They refused to play without the entire group and forfeited the game. “The whole team supported us,” Alyssa Hocking stated. Colette Hocking said, “We’re happy we were part of the decision! They included us. It made us feel like we were part of the team.”
As for the coach of the Mesa Faith Christian boys soccer team, he stated that his stance on the matter was purely for religious reasons. The administrative leader of the school, Dick Buckingham, stated, “It is based on a religious perspective that God created guys and girls differently. The difference physically, there is a strength advantage that men have over women. We want to teach our men that honor of ladies is just not in sports. We struggle how to teach that if we’re allowing them to play against young ladies in a competitive game.” Click here to hear more from the girl’s teammates and how they feel about what happened.
So I’m guessing you guys would like to hear my opinion. Of course I can say that I totally respect Dick Buckingham’s point of reasoning. However, I think that just because there may be a physical difference between men and women, it does NOT mean that women should be treated less than men in the sports world. I think that they should be at least given a chance to prove themselves so maybe people could see that women can be just as good at men in any sport. I know that may sound a bit social justice warrior (SJW) of me, but I think it is a fair point!
I have met some CRAZY good female soccer players that could probably kick some guys butts on the field, so why not treat them equally? I’ve seen this when my school played plenty of small schools before. My school had a boys basketball team that had to face off against a team with a girl on it, and did anyone treat her any differently? No! People saw that she could really handle herself on a court full of boys and was even told that she was one of the best ballers on the team! I just think that even if you feel uncomfortable playing with a team that has two members of the opposite sex, that’s fine. However, I do wish that in these types of circumstances girls and even boys were given more of a chance to prove themselves.
What do you guys think? Do you agree with my point? Disagree? Have you ever been part of a team of the opposite gender? What was it like? Comment down below and let us know!
This is a guest post by Megan Dean who is an up-and-coming blogger who is currently writing exclusively for the MECKids.